Understanding Your Child’s Behaviour: What’s Behind the Meltdowns?

Children are incredible communicators - even when they aren’t using words. When your child has a meltdown, throws toys, or refuses to participate in daily routines, it’s not always defiance. More often, it's their way of saying, "I'm overwhelmed,” “I need help,” or “Something doesn’t feel right."

*** What’s Really Happening?

Behaviour is communication. For children, especially those with neurodevelopmental conditions like autism or ADHD, big behaviours are often responses to:

• Sensory overload (too much noise, light, or touch)

• Communication challenges

• Changes in routine

• Difficulty understanding or managing emotions

• Fatigue or hunger

Understanding the root cause allows us to respond with empathy, not punishment.

*** What Can You Do?

• Observe and Reflect: Notice patterns - does your child melt down in noisy places? During transitions?

• Validate Feelings: Let them know it's okay to feel overwhelmed. Naming emotions helps children build emotional literacy.

• Create Predictable Routines: Consistency helps children feel secure.

• Co-regulate: Your calm presence teaches them how to calm themselves over time.

• Seek Support: Behaviour Support professionals can help identify triggers and build helpful strategies.

  
  

*** Final Thought

Behind every challenging behaviour is a child doing their best with the tools they have. When we meet those behaviours with curiosity and compassion, we open the door to deeper connection - and meaningful progress.